Anal sex - Women, orgasms and intercourseSome women have no problem reaching orgasm from simple vaginal penetration because the movement of the labia can provide some clitoral stimulation while the nerve endings inside the vagina are delicately engorged. Still there are many women (some estimates would say as high as 60%) who for anatomical or psychological reasons can't reach orgasm from penetration alone. This isn't because something’s wrong! Sexual intercourse alone doesn't treat the clitoris to direct stimulation, it almost ignores this important erogenous area altogether.
A woman who wants to become orgasmic has a variety of options to try. One of the most useful and enjoyable is a well kept secret sometimes referred to as the T-position. Begin by the female partner laying on her back. The man, laying perpendicular (making a ‘t’), straddles the woman’s leg farthest from him. For example, if the man lays on the left side of the woman, he straddles her right leg. The other leg lays atop the man. This position exposes the clitoris for stimulation, which either partner can do. Use a water-based lubricant (we recommend Astroglide) and tenderly massage the clitoris while slowly rocking back and forth, thrusting the penis gently in and out. While this double stimulation is very gratifying, most important is how relaxing and intimate it is. Sometimes it's difficult to provide the required stimulation manually so employ a vibrator. Vibrators are designed to provide intense clitoral stimulation. During intercourse, you may want something small and unobtrusive such as the Fukuoku 9000 finger vibe. This little vibrator fits on the end of a finger and can provide intense stimulation. Couples find this method relaxing because they are able to lay down, neither partner having to hold his or her weight, and intimate because with a little adjustment you can talk, enjoy wine or just gaze into one another’s eyes. Being comfortable, relaxed, and stimulated properly is the key for some women to becoming orgasmic.
Women who would like a little extra stimulation can also try ID Pleasure, a high-market lubricant containing L-Arginine. L-Arginine is a non-essential amino acid which, through clinical testing, has been shown to enhance sexual arousal in women. When ID Pleasure is applied to the clitoris and vaginal walls for lubrication the L-Arginine will increase the blood flow to the region, heightening sensitivity. Heightened sensitivity, in turn, naturally results in a greater responsiveness to sexual stimulation. One of the added benefits to ID Pleasure is that it will also increase a man's blood flow, creating a stronger erection and increased stimulation.